Our fast-paced world is literally overwhelming us. This supercharged, everything now, everyone’s connected at all times atmosphere we live in is only partly to blame.
Add the perfect “Facebook Family” ideal that no one can truly live up to; and our kids–they’re expected to be perfect too, right? Academics and sports require an inordinate amount of dedication not seen in past generations; not to mention the extreme harshness and reach of social media.
- The pressure is on our children, and on the parents. Moms, in particular, feel the heat. (Although dads, particularly single dads, are finding themselves in a similar situation.)
Parents are expected to be everything, to everyone, at all times and without fail. This often means being the perfect mom, the perfect spouse, employee, friend and homemaker. This supermom mentality is both a fallacy and a reality at the same time. The fallacy is that we can reach perfection and spread ourselves so perfectly thin, and yet, potentially realistic, because well, let’s be real: if we don’t check all those obligations on our list who will? And the guilt factor? It leaves us feeling sucky no matter where we focus our efforts-day in and day out.
No wonder we’re bursting at the seams. (Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year.)
What about those women who appear to have it all together; the supermoms with power careers, pristine homes and fresh-baked chocolate chip cookies on the counter?
Reality: First, there is no true supermom. Again, no human being anywhere is perfect. While it may appear these women “have it all” some are closer to overload than they realize and on the edge of physical and emotional exhaustion. Others have simply found a balance for the chaos. They accept their limitations, choose to focus on priorities, and consistently implement tools that enable them to work smarter, not harder. These women have become resilient to the grind of life’s everyday stressors. While this may sound impossible, it’s not. And it could be you if you’re willing to allow for it.